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Blogging A-Z Challenge – I is for…

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Blogging A-Z Challenge

Thirty Days. Twenty-six posts.

 April 1 marks the first day of the annual blogging challenge. For 26 days of April (every day except for Sunday) I’m going to have a post related to my Blogging A-Z Theme.

(This post contains adult content that may not be suitable for those under 18)

What’s my theme, you ask?

Do you really need to?

I write bedtime reading for adults, stories they can enjoy alone and with a partner. So it only makes sense that my theme is – Erotica.

I’ll be picking a word or phrase commonly associated with the literary genre of erotica. Don’t worry, these posts won’t be graphic or cringe-worthy – I’m looking to educate, information, amuse and always, entertain.

Read on!

I is for…

Intimacy

If there’s no intimacy, it’s probably porn.

This is how intimacy is defined in the dictionary:

  • a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group.
  • a close association with or detailed knowledge or deep understanding of a place, subject, period of history, etc.:
    an intimacy with Japan.
  • an act or expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection, or the like:
    to allow the intimacy of using first names.
  • an amorously familiar act; liberty.
  • sexual intercourse.
  • the quality of being comfortable, warm, or familiar:

Erotica deals with arousal, relationships, and emotions. Even with the captive/slave, BDSM and shapeshifting stuff, there’s a connection between the partners. In erotica, characters can have a one-off, quickie with a stranger that’s toe-curling fabulous, but don’t they usually bump into them somewhere down the line? There’s a connection between them.

I just read an on-line article that is so anti-erotica it’s actually scary. There are lots of them out there. This one believes that reading ‘mommy-porn’ destroys the intimacy in a relationship.

I strongly disagree with that. Strongly.

I think reading erotica can actually help with intimacy, as long as it’s accepted by both. If you’re secretly reading a ‘dirty’ book, fantasizing about this new and exciting positions and scenarios, and not saying a word about it, it’s not going to help the intimacy in your relationship. Instead, talk about what you’re reading with your partner, and why it excites you. Communicate. That’s how to develop intimacy.

 

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Author: hollykerrauthor

Author of chicklit novels, Unexpecting, Coming Home, Absinthe Doesn't Make the Heart Grow Fonder and The Secret Life of Charlotte Dodd

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