I’m participating in Blogging From A-Z Challenge in April – one blog post on every day in April (except Sundays!) Wish me luck!
April 2 – B: Baring All
When people discover I write erotica, I see an immediate change of expression cross their face. Some times its interest, admiration – sort of like a ‘you go girl!’ Other times it’s fear. From a lot of my make friends, it’s mainly fear. Do they think I’m going to include them in the books? (well, actually I might but never in a bad way!)
But the main reaction I get is – is your sex life that good that you can write about it?!
I’m not giving any dirty details here! If you want to read about sex, pick up the Husbands and Wives series!
What goes on in my books in no way reflects my life. And I’m guessing it’s the same for most authors of erotica. I could be wrong, and maybe I shouldn’t be so quick to deny things are that hot and heavy between the sheets every morning, noon and night for me. Things are good, don’t get me wrong, but I’m not about to write about it!
What I do is follow Stephen King’s instructions – I read a lot. And now I’m writing erotica, I read a lot of dirty stuff!
My Kindle is full of books and stories I’ve downloaded that I hope my kids will never discover! Some of it is bad – really bad. Embarrassingly bad. I need to delete that stuff because it just takes up space. But some of it – wow. Scorching, burning up my Kindle hot!
And that’s what inspires me. I have a good imagination, which is necessary for all writers, but when it comes to the sexy stuff, for me it’s helpful to see what else is out there. I read to see how other writers craft their scenes. What works for them.
But also, when you write erotica, just like any other genre, you write what you’re interested in. You have to examine your own wants and desires to know what to explore. You have to find out what excites you; if it doesn’t excite you, its guaranteed that it’s not going to excite anyone else.
You have to bare yourself.
Writing is like having a window into your soul. Your readers have an insight into what interests you, what concerns you. What you think is funny and what you think is offensive. It’s very revealing. And frightening to think of opening yourself up like that.
But the result is something you’re proud of; work you’ll hope others will read and enjoy. So baring yourself is worth it.